Tell me about yourself. Where are you from ?
I am from Canada. I am now retired. I worked for many years as a speechwriter -- writing speeches for politicians.
Can you tell us a little bit about your journey?
I was married for ten years. Then I got divorced and like a lot of people at first I blamed the other person. Then I came to the point of asking myself: What do I have to learn from all this? I set out on a journey to learn what it means to be a man in a relationship. I started by listening to other men. The more I listened, the more I realized that many men are unsure of what it means to be a man. Then I read books on relationships -- but they didn't say anything to me. It was only when I turned to the timeless wisdom that for generations fathers and other older male role models used to teach younger men, that I was blown away. This wisdom changed my life.
Have you always want to be a writer?
Yes, I like writing because it's a way to share ideas and insights with other people. With the Internet, you can share your ideas with people around the world.
Your book is translated in 24 languages, that's awesome! What does success mean to you?
Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants: Timeless wisdom on being a man has been translated into 24 languages by publishers in Europe, Asia, Latin America and Africa. It is a very rewarding feeling to think that people in these different countries are reading the book and learning how to improve their relationships and avoid divorce. What could be more rewarding than knowing you are helping make peace between husbands and wives all over the world -- helping them avoid divorce and reducing the number of children from broken homes.
In your book you give advice about relationships. What and /or who inspired you to write this book?
I wanted to share what I learned with other people -- so that they wouldn't go through what I went through. It helps give meaning and purpose to difficult experience when you can help prevent other people from going through that difficult experience.
If you had to describe characters grandfather in three words, what would those three words be?
He is wise -- he is sharing his wisdom with his grandson. He is caring -- he cares about his family and he wants to help his grandson improve his relationship with his wife and avoid divorce. He is giving -- Like many grandparents, he wants to do everything he can to help his family.
What are the most important things in a marriage?
The most important lessons in Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants: Timeless wisdom on being a man are: Show your share of leadership in the marriage and the family. Many men today have heard masculinity described as toxic and controlling. They want to be good men. They do not want to be toxic and controlling -- so they leave all leadership to their wives. And they don't understand why -- when they leave all responsibilities on their wives -- their wives are frustrated with them. Make your share of decisions -- when a man can't even decide where to go for a cup of coffee, it makes her wonder how he would handle major decisions. Take responsibility for what is gong on in your marriage and in your home. Don't blame your wife.
Are you receiving feedback from your book? Tell me about it.
It has been rewarding to receive feedback on how the insights in the book have made a difference or could have made a difference. Here are some of the comments I received: “I couldn't put it down. On every page I found more that I had been doing wrong. Now I look forward to making positive changes and seeing where it goes. This book will likely be a life saver for my relationship.” “My husband made some personal changes after reading this book and I was amazed at the difference his changes made in me. My ability to communicate with him improved and my internalized anxieties reduced." “It wasn't until my current girlfriend fell out of love with me that I decided to do something about it. I am now on a journey to become a better man and this book has helped me a lot. “ A divorced woman wrote, "If my husband had understood these basic but crucial truths, our marriage of 38 years would not have disintegrated. Divorced men have written, "I wish I had read it a long time ago. It might have change the course of my life. Truly inspiring read." “I made some fatal mistakes about being the kind of man I thought a woman wanted. I lost a marriage and only now, after reading this book, see how and why that happened."
How do you research for your books?
I read the teachings that men have written over the centuries about being a man. They were so fresh and relevant -- it's as if they were written today. I realized that for many generations men have been teaching other men about being a man. A lot of men today were not taught these insights -- that is why I am on a mission to share these teachings.
What is the message in the book?
As I indicated above, a man has to show his share of leadership, make decisions and take responsibility. If he doesn't, his wife will be very frustrated with him.
As a speaker, who is your main audience? Couple, men or women.
Mostly men. But sometimes speaking to men and women together is good. One time a man sitting in front turned to the woman beside and asked, "Is that what women want?" The woman said, "Listen to what he is saying."
What's next for you?
I am completing an audio book version of the book, which will be out soon. Many people have told me they want to listen to the book as they are driving.
Where can we find you and your book?
They can reach me through my website www.ElliottKatz.com I welcome hearing from anyone with comments or questions. My book Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants: Timeless wisdom on being a man is available as a paperback on Amazon; and as an ebook on Amazon Kindle, Kobo and Apple Books -- formerly called iBooks. I also have 30-Point Action Plan to implementing the insights in the book which is available free if people want to email me through my website www.ElliottKatz.com or directly at ElliottRKatz@aol.com